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What is self-harm?
When depression, anxiety or other emotions become overwhelming, some people turn to self-harm to find a release. Deliberate self-harm, also called self-injury, is any form of hurting yourself on purpose. Usually, self-harm is not a suicide attempt but instead an attempt to release painful emotions.
What are common forms of self-harm?
- Biting
- Burning
- Cutting
- Hitting or punching oneself (ex. banging your head against a surface)
- Pulling out hair
- Scratching and picking skin
- Carving words or symbols into the skin
- Piercing the skin with sharp objects
- Picking at existing wounds
Why does self-harm happen?
Often, self-harm happens when someone survives (or is living with) serious trauma and they’re trying to:
- Numb pain
- Feel a release
- Gain a sense of control
- Process or avoid negative feelings
- Punish themselves for things they think they’ve done wrong
- Feel something physical to avoid numbness
- Express emotions they’re embarrassed of
What are the warning signs of self-harm?
- Scars
- Fresh cuts, burns, scratches or bruises
- Excessive rubbing to create a burn
- Having sharp objects on hand
- Relationship problems
- Wearing long sleeves or pants, even in hot weather
- Unstable behavior (being impulsive or unpredictable)
- Saying they feel helpless, hopeless or worthless
If you notice signs of self-harm, what can you do?
1. Ask the person generally how they’re doing.
How are things at home?
How is work or school?
How is your relationship with ___?
2. Tell them that you care about them.
I care about you.
3. Finally, let them know you’ve noticed signs of self-harm.
I’ve noticed some signs of self-harm, and I am here for you.
The person may or may not be receptive. All you can do is let them know you’ve noticed and you care about their health.
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